Parties in non-traditional, but committed, relationships have special needs with regard to legal planning and resolution of conflict when needed. Non-traditional families do not presently enjoy equal protection of the law in South Carolina with regard to marriage, divorce, adoption, intestacy, or guardianship, just to name a few areas where protection of committed relationships can be important. I cannot “fix” the law, but I am happy to help LGBT and transgender people plan preventively and implement measures designed to provide some protection for your loved ones. Advance planning is important for everyone, but it is especially critical for nontraditional families!
There are many areas where documents can be drafted which provide some of the legal protections which do not exist as a matter of statute. These include
- health care decisions,
- estate planning,
- retirement savings,
- recognition of your marriage if you have been married in another state.
Not only is there a lack of legal protection for your spouse with regard to financial and property matters, but also because sometimes outside or estranged family waits until your most vulnerable moments — a time of death or disability — to try and come in and upset the apple cart. There are nightmare stories of spouses being ejected from hospital bedsides on account of their not being “next of kin.” A long term spouse ejected from a family home because the law of intestacy provided for the home to go to someone other than the spouse. Death and disability are traumatic enough to endure, without the added nightmare for your loved one of dealing with hostile or unjust legal battles.
In addition to planning that protects your spouse, gay and lesbian couples also at times deal with the same issues as other families. When gay and lesbian couples break up, they have no recourse to the courts for protection of property rights, child custody matters, or spousal support. This is when divorce and child custody mediation can be especially valuable, because it works no matter what your family composition. The transformative mediation approach I use in my practice is based on your commitment to principles of fairness rather than reliance on legalistic arguments about what the law requires. While the loss of a relationship is a painful life event, my goal is to make this difficult event less traumatic for everyone. I help you work together to meet several key goals:
- help preserve that which is good in your relationship without poisoning it with bad feelings and resentment,
- for both parties to end up with a result that feels fair and is sustainable in the long run, and
- for parents to end up with solutions that are in the long term best interest of their children.
I also offer legal services to facilitate the legal and paperwork aspects of gender transition.
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