Mediated Divorce

Introduction to Divorce Mediation

You’ve tried everything to save your marriage.  You don’t hate your spouse, but you’ve both decided that divorce is better than the other alternatives.  You want to be fair, but you’re not quite sure what that means.  One thing is for certain.  You’ve heard how awful the divorce process can be, and you don’t want to end up bankrupting yourself and ending up enemies.

Does this sound like you?  If it does, then divorce mediation may be the answer for you.

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Divorce Mediation: When Is It Appropriate?

You’ve tried everything to save your marriage.  You don’t hate your spouse, but you’ve both decided that divorce is better than the other alternatives.  You want to be fair, but you’re not quite sure what that means.  One thing is for certain.  You’ve heard how awful the divorce process can be, and you don’t want to end up bankrupting yourself and ending up enemies.

Does this sound like you?  If it does, then divorce mediation may be the answer for you.

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Can Divorce Mediation Save My Marriage?

Mediation is not the same as counseling.  A couple should not come to divorce mediaton thinking it may save their marriage.  Mediation is not the remedy for saving a marriage.  That is the role of marriage counseling.  The over-arching goal of divorce mediation is to help two parties reach a concrete agreement that addresses the issues that must be decided in order to separate their lives and live as a divorced couple.  Rest assured, a divorce mediator will support you if you want to save your marriage, but they will not pressure you to stay married.

On some rare occasions, however, the process of helping parties build a concrete agreement ends up helping parties develop better communication skills and improved understanding of each other’s needs.  Sometimes, this results in a more peaceable and satisfactory relationship.  In rare cases, enough steam is let out of the pressure cooker that parties might report that they feel they no longer need a divorce.

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Mediation: The Future of Divorce?

According to Forrest Mosten, a Los Angeles mediator, family law specialist and the author of numerous books on mediation and collaborative divorce (click HERE for list), mediation is a new alternative to divorce litigation. “As people become disenchanted with our court systems, and as we become aware of the significant impact that a family breakup has on children, more people are turning to mediation.”

Mediation isn’t marriage counseling.  Although feelings about the marriage and the decision to divorce may be relevant and may be discussed during mediation, the goal of mediation is to reach an agreement — a separation or divorce agreement — that will help you, your ex, and your children (if any) adjust to the divorce and agree on how to resolve future issues together.

From “Finding Common Ground” by Diana Shepherd, published in Divorce Magazine and reprinted HERE.

For more information and resources about divorce mediation, see links on this website, HERE

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