What Is Mediation?

 

 

Mediation is a confidential meeting in which a specially trained, neutral mediator guides two or more individuals  in a process designed to help disputants reach their own, voluntary agreement.


Everyone has conflicts from time to time.  Mediation is an excellent way to resolve most forms of conflict.  If you are looking for something better than litigation, and assuming you don’t want to ignore the problem creating a conflict, you should consider mediation!  If you are interested in discussing whether mediation might be appropriate for your situation, call Alexandria Skinner at 803-414-0185, or ask a question using the contact form below:

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Traditionally, people have settled conflicts by fighting, by going to court, or even by ignoring the conflict and trying to pretend that it doesn’t exist. None of those is particularly satisfactory.

Mediation is a fresh alternative that does work.  Mediation offers a philosophy, a method of resolving disputes, in which the parties to conflict attack the problem rather than attacking each other.

Albert Einstein made the observation that a problem is never solved using the same level of thinking that created the problem in the first place.  The mediator is trained in techniques to move parties beyond traditional attack modes of positioning, posturing, and protecting.   Instead, the mediator will try to lead the parties into mutually constructive, problem solving that will address the true interests involved.

For the parties to even dare enunciate these interests, at times, requires trust in the neutral and strict assurance of confidentiality.  This need for privacy is one reason that everything said during a mediation is confidential.  With rare exceptions, nothing said or done during mediation can be used as evidence later in court, and the mediator cannot be called as a witness.  Parties to a mediation will never have to worry whether the neighbors will read about their case in the newspaper.

Once the true interests are uncovered, the Mediator will assist the parties in brainstorming and crafting their own solutions designed to meet those interests.  The mediation process is voluntary and results only in voluntary agreements.

Use resources on this site to explore the possibilities for resolving conflict in ways that can make everyone a winner

Mediation is an alternate path to traditional, adversarial means of dispute resolution  Everyone has conflicts from time to time.  Use resources on this site to explore the possibilities for resolving conflict in ways that can make everyone a winner

Mediation is an alternate path to traditional, adversarial means of dispute resolution Everyone has conflicts from time to time. Use resources on this site to explore the possibilities for resolving conflict in ways that can make everyone a winner

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4 Responses to What Is Mediation?

  1. Divorce will always lead to depression and anger towards the other party. As much as possible avoid divorce`.-

  2. Emma Hill says:

    Divorce is usually the end of a good relationship, every couple should avoid it.-,

  3. Skinner says:

    Hello Jayden and Emma. I understand your point of view that divorce is a sad event which should be avoided whenever possible. I agree with that.

    In fact, sometimes mediation can help couples stay married. How? Sometimes couples are able to use mediation as a means of working through conflict that is getting in the way of being happily married. Mediation serves the useful purpose of providing a safe environment in which to discuss issues where emotions are too intense for the couple to manage the conversation on their own. I want to make it clear that mediation is not a substitute for counseling or therapy. On the other hand, sometimes what people really need is a concrete agreement and when they have that, other issues get easier to work through.

    A second point I would like to make is that sometimes divorce is inevitable, and in those cases mediation is usually the best option. Not everyone chooses divorce, sometimes it’s thrust on us. And sometimes, the couple decides that living apart is less painful than living together. I’d like to point out that in those types of cases, the divorce is not the cause of the broken relationship. The divorce is just a symptom of brokenness and pain that has existed for some time. In cases where divorce is inevitable, mediation is most often far better than litigation not only in terms of cost, but also in terms of letting couples split up with as little collateral damage as possible.

    Thus, I support your comments to the extent that they encourage all of us to support and cherish our marriages. I myself have been married almost 29 years, and I know from experience that it takes commitment and some effort sometimes to keep a happy relationship. I would always encourage couples to put their very best into preserving their marriages and making them great. On the other hand, when a marriage is broken beyond repair and divorce is inevitable, mediation is usually far better than the other options which force the couple to “lawyer up,” erect shields and defenses, and go to war in a courtroom battle.

  4. Connor Campbell says:

    divorce is of course one of the worst thing that you could experience but you could get over it ~-‘

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